Self Worth, High Self Esteem. How can we help others, FEEL Valued?

Self Worth, High Self Esteem. How can we help others, FEEL Valued? 04/11/2010

Self Worth Is The Key To Positive Mental Health.

How can we Help Others have High Self Esteem?

Here is my husband Reg, who has a frontal lobe degeneration causing a cognitive and executive function disorder, (or in other words, he can not plan or think of two consecutive events, easily), proving to be the most qualified member of the extended family to help a bright achiever high school member of the family with her advanced maths.

Don’t write off those with dementia or years behind them (Reg is 70 this year ) as ‘old fogies’. Everyone needs to feel good at something and to be valued.

Age is not relative to working toward and helping others achieve, a high self esteem.

I believe high self esteem, it is one of the most important reasons, why children from disadvantaged or abusive families, can become successful in life, as adults, even becoming high achievers, rather than perpetuate, the problem lifestyle they grew up with.

You can try to reach anyone at any stage of life and help them to feel they are GOOD at something, This can make a huge, positive, difference to that person’s life.
So don’t hold back when we can make such a difference. Is there someone out there today, who’s life you can touch by sharing a skill with them or praising a skill they already have?
High self esteem does come from within but the seed needs to be watered and fertilized with training and encouragement from outside.
I feel strongly about this out of gratitude to those who helped me step up out of the sort of life I knew as a child into a rewarding adult life. I have had and I am having a WONDERFUL life and have even learned to respect the harshness of the childhood as I've been able to use so much of what I learned through it to improve my adult life.

Can you be the sun and water to others who are able to respond?

Do you have the inner strength and patience to water and warm a sleeping seemingly unresponsive seed?

I came from a shattered, home and without going into details here, it was my discovery that I loved and found inner peace, around nature, dogs and art early in life and my being able to develop, these interests and feel the praise, of others, that I could do these tasks well, that would have made all the difference to me, becoming an achiever not just a survivor, of the events of my early life.

I see Reg, attaching the caravan, to the car, washing the dishes after our caravan made meals thst he helps prepare and although I supervise the safety aspects, of these jobs and make reminders, the being active and having an important role where others are depending on him is a huge part of what keeps my man well and functioning, despite his dementia.

We discovered yesterday that he is also a brilliant, maths tutor. I had not realized this beforeJ. Well I can see more visits to my daughters’ homes to help the grand children with their high school level maths in the next few years and a growing knowledge of how valuable my man is as a family member and that sort of feeling is better than any drug the doctors could prescribe.

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